The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Through violence you may murder the liar, but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth. Through violence you murder the hater, but you do not murder hate. In fact, violence merely increases hate...Returning violence for violence multiples violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: Only love can do that. ---Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968)
In the daily deluge of tales about who did what bloody atrocity to whom when in the mideast, it is heartening that there is a secret knot hole; a little used way of viewing the situation, from which the seemingly irreconcilable differences between Palestinians and Israelis vanish from sight. Vanish means in the sense of black/white relations in America and South Africa. Although differences still plague both countries, they are minor compared to those in Israel.
The secret knot hole is that there is no physical law that prevents both Israelis and Palestinians from having everything they want. No physical law of nature prevents Palestians from having Jerusalem as their capital, and none prevents the Israelis from the same thing. No law of nature prevents Palestinians from finding work in Israel. None prevents the Israelis from getting workers from Palestine, or the inverse. No law of nature says both sides of this conflict can't enjoy peace and prosperity within a unified and non-discriminatory state.
Neither side has to give up anything but something neither of them needs, the urge to discriminate; to prevent others from fulfilling their needs too. It is only this subjective fantasies, the urge to discriminate, something that exist only inside people's minds, that has kept this pot boiling for more than a half century as both sides seek to impose win-lose solutions on the other. The name of this urge is discrimination, the urge to prevent the other fellow from getting what they want because of race, gender, creed, origin; anything but outright criminal behavior.
As outrageous as this may seem in view of the suffering inflicted on each other, win-win solutions could work here as they have worked in other conflicts around the globe. To pick only one example of many, notice that blacks and whites share Washington DC as their capital exactly as Israelis and Palestinians could share Jerusalem as theirs.